Don’t be silent about your pain

I sent this to a male acquaintance last night:

It might sound petty, yet I don’t have the patience to deal with your unwanted advances. My “NO” is enough. As women we are taught to be nice and chalk it up when men are being annoying, disrespectful, and pushy for fear of our safety. I don’t want to be nice to you anymore. I don’t care how successful you are, I’m simply not interested. Please respect that.

AND AFTER ALL OF THAT…he didn’t offer an apology, commenced to blame me for being “attractive”, and asked who this nigga was in a picture I posted 😳. LAWD LOL! I didn’t respond at all. THEN he did something new, sent a disturbing silhouette of his penis and tried convince  me that I didn’t know what I was missing. I thought, look where being “nice about this shit” has gotten me. I blocked him.

Ladies, be empowered to never tolerate exchanges like this, especially if you clearly were uncomfortable the first time. 😦🤬😫

—TheeAmazingGrace ♥️💕♥️

#anythinglessthanayesisano #endrapeculture #toxicmasculinityhastostop

Can’t stop, won’t stop the love: Surprise visit from the Bakers

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I planned a bday bash in March, but had to postpone after the virus hit. Today my bestie @cynmoni & mommy B surprised me by dropping off belated gifts and an abundance of love in the finest social distancing fashion lol! Between mommy B’s homemade sweet potato pie, plum preserves and handmade masks I’m on top of the world. Thank y’all so much!

—TheeAmazingGrace ♥️💕♥️

#afrikanface #blacklove #bestiesforlife #familyties #giftgiving #girlrillavintage #happybelatedbirthdaytome #piscesnation #thankyou #theeamazinggrace

Spring cleaning: Understanding codependency

We often throw the words codependent or codependency around, not truly understanding what it means. Honestly, I’m a recovering codependent. I never knew that codependence is considered to be a disease like that of an addiction. ⁣

How 3 of our main institutions (churches, families, and schools) actively teach us to not form boundaries, to stay in addictive, suffering, possessive, clingy relationships. ⁣
Or normalizing duality and fused identities vs coming together as individuals. This book is awesome and teaching me new things! ⁣⁣

—TheeAmazingGrace ♥️

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We often throw the words codependent or codependency around, not truly understanding what it means. Honestly, I’m a recovering codependent. I never knew that codependence is considered to be a disease like that of an addiction. ⁣ ⁣ How 3 of our main institutions (churches, families, and schools) actively teach us to not form boundaries, to stay in addictive, suffering, possessive, clingy relationships. ⁣Or normalizing duality and fused identities vs coming together as individuals. This book is awesome and teaching me new things! ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ #afrikanface #boundariesarehealthy #codependenceisadisease #codependencyrecovery #context #girlrillavintage #perspective #recoveringcodependent #sharingiscaring #smudgetalk #understandingcodependency #vulnerabilityisnecessary

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#afrikanface #boundariesarehealthy #codependenceisadisease #codependencyrecovery #context #girlrillavintage #perspective #recoveringcodependent #sharingiscaring #smudgetalk #understandingcodependency #vulnerabilityisnecessary

Stankass Laundry Day

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Stank ass laundry day lol! I know…I joke around about washing my stank ass laundry, yet I know the privilege it is to be able to wash my ass and my laundry. ⁣

Folks could NEVER imagine the half me, my brothers and mom survived. Sleeping in abandoned houses, bellies scraping our spines, being brutalized by predatory dick heads, mama having to sex work for money, food and shelter, shamed for being impoverished. ⁣

I don’t live this life to take any of it for granite although, I have at times. Grateful to be here to tell it, to smile while telling it, knowing I never have to go back there. Bless those in struggle for basic human necessities. Trust, life won’t always be like this. ⁣

—TheeAmazingGrace

#afrikanface #awarenessiskey #bekindtoyourself #girlrillavintage #knowyourprivilege #laundryday #lifewontalwaysbelikethis #sharingmytruth #stayinthestruggle #theeamazinggrace

1997

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Circa 1997

I was 17 yrs young and never seized to find who I was back then. We were visiting my brother David at Devereaux and learned that he was a person living with schizophrenia the paranoid type. We asked so many questions. How beautiful, David tried to answer. Our love and strength during that time mirrored each other. ⁣

—TheeAmazingGrace ♥️

#afrikanface #ancestorsremember #circa1997 #familymatters #girlrillavintage #imsunflowerssista #love #memorylane #mybrotherskeeper #restinpowerlittlebrother #skinnydip #sunflower #theeamazinggrace #tbt #youthfulglow

KA Energy

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Ancient Kemetism teaches us about the importance of Ka (life force) activation. How to vibrate higher, let go of denser energies and to join forces with our higher vibrational selves. There are 13 levels to this shit.⁣ Be of service to yourselves and research that. It’s been mind blowing to me this far. 

—TheeAmazingGrace ♥️

#afrikanface #ancientkemet #ancientwisdom #ascensiontalk #beofservicetoyourself #electricalcurrent #egypt #energy #evolution #fifthdimensionandbeyond #girlrillavintage #getyourlessons #kaactivation #levelstothisshit #shadowkeepersandroothealers #theeamazinggrace #throwbackpic #vibrationalfrequencies ⁣#wcw

I start my mornings with breath

I’m no expert on breath work. However, I start my mornings with breath to awaken my mind, calm my nerves, reduce stress, and to settle into my day. It’s something I look forward to each day. In the video I’m practicing Nadi Shodhana, one of many alternate nostril breathing techniques. ⁣Breathe y’all. Life won’t always be like this. ⁣

Thank you black yogis of Instagram for the introduction to @londrelle beautiful song, Morning Asana. It blessed me right on time! 🖤🤎🖤 ⁣⁣

—TheeAmazingGrace ♥️

#afrikanface #blackyogismatter #breath #breathe #breathwork #everbodylovesthesunshine #girlrillavintage #iloveitunes #istartmymorningswithbreath #londrelle #love #locs #morningasana #movement #peace #pranayama #sunnydays #sunkist #takeamoment #theeamazinggrace #vinyasa #yogaplay

My block was hot

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Photo credit Blvck Vrchives

Summers in Philly were hot as giraffe nuts lol! I remember the elders on our block turning on the water with a big wrench or how somebody would block the hose to make the water spray on us. Everybody was in the streets to cool off, even the hood dudes and drug dealers lol! That coupled with the water ice truck and soft pretzels (when everything was 50 cents), playing wall ball, double Dutch, man hunt, and racing each other as fast as we could around the block are the few good memories I cherish from my childhood. 🙏🏾 for this priceless 📸 from 1963 Blvck Vrchives. ⁣Brings back so many memories. ⁣

—TheeAmazingGrace ♥️

#afrikanface #blackarchives #citylife #everybodylovesthesunshine #girlrillavintage #goodtimes #hoodchronicles #memoriesdontlivelikepeopledo #phillylife #rememberwhen #sundays #westphiladelphiabornandraised

Soulmission: They dont need eyes to see you

Be encouraged to use this global time out to remove yourself from toxic people (family, friend or foe). A lot of these folks are energy vampires, pulling you away from your souls mission because they’re selfish and don’t want to lose you. Don’t want you to stop fulfilling their needs or working towards their legacy.

Far too long many of us have been “supporting actresses or actors” this whole time and now that we want to step into our full power folks are resenting that. They’re resenting that you no longer want to sit there and clap for just them. They see the opportunities coming your way and there’s a lot of gossip and chatter against your choices. Don’t be distracted. Don’t take it personal. Put yourself first. Everyone can’t come along on your journey. Be at peace with that, knowing you’re in-line with divine purpose. Building your life’s legacy. Remember, they don’t need eyes to see you.

—TheeAmazingGrace ♥️

#bigchanges #elevation #girlrillavintage #harvest #theeamazinggrace

Breaking generational curses

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Working on making friends with my fears. Alchemising a really core, foundational-vibration of myself. Those underdeveloped. Scars no longer bleeding. Those vulnerable spaces. I’m learning that so much of it is familial. From my past. In my lineage. ⁣—Breaking generational curses⁣

-TheeAmazingGrace ♥️

#afrikanface #ascending #breakinggenerationalcurses #girlrillavintage #healingblack  #healthierhabits #lifework #locslove #rooted #roothealer #theeamazinggrace